7 ways to know if You Are Dealing with a Cold-Hearted Person
By Adetoun Adeyemo. November 20, 2:00pm
A cold-hearted person may be difficult to recognize at first and deal with. Luckily, there are some signs to look for that will help you with this.
It is said that all people are born good and that evil is something that we learn. Yet, there are so many people who are just too good at being bad for it not to be inherent. Their lack of empathy and feeling for others makes it impossible to believe that it wasn’t a trait they were born with. It can be hard to spot cold-hearted people initially. Luckily, there are a few ways that you can spot those who are simply out for themselves.
1. They’re secretive
No matter how long you have known them, you probably don’t know anything real about them. Those with cold hearts try to keep all aspects of their personal life and personality separate and secret. It makes it much easier to refrain from growing an attachment to others.
Not only are they secretive about themselves, they may also be secretive about work projects or meetings. Thus, you never really know what they are thinking or what their next move is. Instilling this uncertainty in others gives them the power of surprise when making their next move.
2. They take dangerous risks
Risk taking is a natural part of life, and our successful risks are what help us to progress in life and make a success out of ourselves. Risks to a cold-hearted person, however, are an entirely different ballgame.
They are happy to take risks, but there is no end to the risks that they are willing to take. No matter how dangerous or how reckless, those with cold hearts will go for it anyway and they will drag others with them. They put no thought into the feelings of others. These people are simply doing what makes them feel good and what they think will help them progress.
3. They never show remorse
Cold-hearted people may say sorry. In fact, they probably will, but they will never seem to mean it. They don’t mind hurting others, or any other consequences of their actions. But it is not socially acceptable to not apologize when they’re called on their bad behavior. So they will happily apologize to those who feel wronged, but they will never mean it.
Have you witnessed a series of half-hearted apologies from the same person? Chances are that they are cold-hearted and not to be handled lightly.
4. They know how to gaslight
Gaslighting is a psychological term for altering the reality to the way that you want it to be. If you catch them being deceptive or untruthful, they may try and twist events or words. They will probably try to make it seem as though you’re crazy or you don’t understand the situation. Over a long period of time, this can lead to a lot of self-doubt and anxiety.
Cold-hearted people will do anything to manipulate you into submission of their will. The important thing to remember is that you know what is happening in your own reality and your memories of events are probably correct.
5. They seem entitled
Cold-hearted people believe that the world belongs to them and anything that stands in their way is simply a temporary obstacle. Although they may have heard the word ‘no’ before, they have probably figured out ten ways to get around it by the time the word has left your lips.
They feel as though they are too special to lead a normal existence and will do what they can to get what they feel they deserve. This means anything from lying and manipulating to sabotaging other people’s work. Cold-hearted people are champions at taking advantage of others and will do what they can to advance.
6. They can remember every lie they’ve told
Cold-hearted people have the ability to seamlessly lie to your face. But they also remember every single lie and half-truth that they have told you to make sure that they don’t slip up. It may be a white lie about why they didn’t come into work or something much more awful. They will know exactly what they have told whom and will make sure that they don’t slip up when questioned about it.
With such impressive lying skills, it can be hard to navigate between truth and lies. But once they are found out, the web of lies will quickly be uncovered.
7. Your gut tells you they can’t be trusted
Sometimes the best gage of a person is your natural gut reaction to them. There is a good reason for your gut to tell you not to trust someone, not just a bad smell or a stupid comment.
First impressions speak volumes. So if yours is telling you to stay away from a certain person, then it might be a good idea to do just that.
Cold-hearted people are not easy to spot initially. So your gut may be the thing you can really trust in the long run.
Cold-hearted people can appear in every aspect of our lives. Not just the workplace, but also in our social and family lives. Although they are hard to deal with, being able to spot a cold-hearted person makes it infinitely easier to figure out a way of making the best out of a bad situation if they are someone you can’t simply cut out.
We hope that this has helped you give you a clear profile of a cold-hearted person. Hopefully, you will be able to protect yourself from them.